Most of the mishap occurs due to communication gap in life. The first mid-air clash in Dadri Chakri in India also happened due to a communication gap between the radio operator and pilot of the Khaza aircraft. Communication is vital to any relation, be it professional or personal, it can either improve or ruin your relationship. So it’s important to have knowledge of what is communication and how to use it to the optimum level. This is the key to strengthen any relation, and you are soon going to believe me as you read below. If you know the tricks of effective communication then you can rock n roll in any relationship you handle. Let us answer a few of the most frequently asked questions to understand the concept better.
What Is Communication?
‘Communication is the process of expressing our words, feelings or expression with an individual or group.’ This is the literal meaning that we all know since we enter the mid-school.
Why We Fail To Communicate Properly?
We often are poor at conversation because generally, we don’t know the success mantra of communication or maybe one does not care for the same considering it a trivial matter to concentrate on. Moreover, in today’s tech-oriented days we are distracted by so many things that we hardly bother about implementing effective communication.
Just Reflect:
Suppose you had a fight with your spouse and both of you are not talking with each other while staying in the same room but at the same time suddenly your mobile phone gets non-functional. Now reflect on what would have you done in such a case? I think I would have gone to repair my mobile without repairing my relationship first which is much more important.
Now I will equip you people with some Fundas of communication which can transform your relationships.
#Tips 1.
7% rule of Dr. Albert Mehrabian
Communication is 7% words which we say, 55% is the body language while we are saying the words and 38% is the voice tone which we use while communicating. It is advisable to always have a face to face communication with your loved ones with whom you want to revive or repair your relationship. Don’t SMS or WhatsApp or Email sorry or your feelings or quarrel in digital media with your girlfriend because it would be only 7% and rest body language and tone would be missing.
#Tips 2
Always perform this 3 check formula before communicating with anybody.
Is it relevant? 90% of our communication is irrelevant. We generally deviate from the main topic. I have experienced that it happens much when somebody quarrels with each other, especially spouses.
Is it necessary? Just check whether the words which you are going to utter are at all necessary or can be told later. Dear Couples, take special attention when the situation is not congenial.
The Tone: Check what you are telling is coming from heart or mind. If you are using your mind or logic to establish then there is a chance of increasing stress. I recommend smooth and heart to heart communication or powerless communication to solve any issues.
Case Study:
Recently I was on vacation with my wife and four years son in a hill station. Before the journey, my best friend told me to give a call every day as he cares for me. As we landed at the airport, my son caught a fever and cold. The next day when we checked out of our hotel for going to another tourist spot, my son’s health deteriorated. We were scared; the local driver helped us taking us to the nearby doctor for medicine. In between, since we were in mess I just messaged my friend writing him ‘Busy, talk later’. On the third day of our trip, after the treatment provided by the local doctor my son’s health improved. Now as I used digital mode to communicate with my friend, as through text only 7% communication happened which was not enough for him to understand my messy situation, he thought that I was enjoying a lot with my wife and son in that beautiful place and hence had no time for him. The other day when I called him up and made him realize the situation with my tone and emotion he realized and understood the situation.
Conclusion:
Try to communicate more face to face rather than using digital media to communicate and use the above-mentioned tips by me to maintain the flow of any relation.
(This article was originally published on lifehackpundit.com by the same author).
