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Just Married!
Of late, I was in a get together with my ‘just married’ friends. I was astonished hearing that all of them are having fights with their wives in the closed room every now and then. It is because of the difference in opinion or the adjustment issues with the in-laws etc. I tried to figure out the reason and came out to the conclusion that none of the couples was well equipped to handle marriage. In my coming days, I am going to reveal the top hidden secret to solve this. But now, I am going to discuss the one quality which we must inculcate to strengthen ourselves to avoid disputes.
Why does dispute arise in a close relationship?
We are living in a confluence age with a fast-paced mechanical life. In today’s life, no one is perfect and mentally healthy. All are trying to get mental security and happiness from the outside world. So when negativity collides with negativity, disputes occur. We always want other people’s rooms to be clean leaving ours untidy. So we must check our approach and rectify towards positive energy.
We must always be in a process of cleaning our negative qualities and we should accept the other person without expecting him or her to be clean first. If we become inward-oriented and stop seeking approval or happiness from others, who are also empty, then our job is done.
Solution – ACCEPTANCE:
Acceptance is the main keyword. We must accept our partners without expecting them to change. We must work on cleansing our negativity and increase our positivity. Acceptance will boost up your positivity and enhance your endurance power. Once your positivity starts increasing then it will automatically help your partner to grow. Actions in a relationship always speak louder than voice. So, the mantra is ‘acceptance’ and move on to grow yourself, your partner and in turn your relationship.
You might be thinking that acceptance is not so easy in real life but it’s just a philosophy. For But it can be done with practice, try it for 21 days – accept and do not react. This practice will help couples for growing up their children also. (Stay updated on my parenting tips as well).
Tips:
Now I will give you a simple line to reflect on, which will act as your resource to practice acceptance.
‘We do not expect snowfall and ACCEPT the heat in summer‘.
So, this summer is all about acceptance without expecting any snowfall to rescue us from the heat treat, which eases to bear the summer smoothly and figuring a way out to protect ourselves from heat. We do not quarrel and complaint about the absence of snowfall in summer. So, if spontaneously we can accept summer then why can’t we accept our partner’s behaviour? Whenever you lose your temperament and stand out to fight, just remember the tagline in italic to improve your relationship.
Conclusion:
Use Acceptance as one of the main quality to maintain a green relationship with your closed one. Practice, and strengthen this quality which can make you excel in managing your relationships.
(The article was originally published on www.lifehackpundit.com by the same author).
