Hey, today’s topic is going to be an interesting one. One of the mandatory rituals for any individual from any corner of the World and that is Marriage. Today I shall talk about what marriage is. Actually, when I got married after three years of courtship in 2011, I was in a fantasy world.Now after almost six years things have changed, I have realized a lot which I am going to share with you.
What I felt during this years, that every individual should be trained enough and have clarity before they marry. Parents or mentors should play this role rather than pushing them one fine morning to live with their spouse and family.
What is a ‘Relation’?
Man is a social animal. Every individual has physical, psychological, social, economic needs. In relation, an individual intends to fulfill all his desired needs or help the other partner in fulfilling his or her.
What is Marriage?
If you are seen to fulfill all your needs staying in the jungle or streets then it looks ugly. So marriage is a social concept or institution where two individuals are allowed to stay together and fulfill their physical, social, psychological and economic needs and to experience stability in life.
Prior to my marriage, I used to think that I should marry a girl whose thinking will be the same as of mine, who will understand me well, etc. But now I have gain clarity about marriage and understood that in reality no two individual’s perceptions and thinking are the same. In the next session, I will share the reason for that. So as of now let us understand the concept of marriage described above. According to me,
“marriage is not about thinking alike, rather it’s all about thinking positive together for collective growth and empowerment”
Benefits of Marriage:
See the child of a tiger is always a tiger, a child of the horse is always a horse unlike a child of the human being is not a human being, to make a child of a human being a human, a lot of effort has to be put in. We have to provide a good ecosystem for the child. The children of animals can be fed in the street and only needs food to grow up but that is not true for the human. So marriage gives you that ecosystem and support system where you can live with stability and can fulfill your needs and can grow up your children well.
Some important facts:
Love is an experience of sweet emotion. It is very important that your partner should trigger sweet emotion in a relationship because when your physical chemistry is fulfilled then you might feel why the hell I am in this relation. So both the partner should be trained in triggering sweet emotions for the long-lasting of a relation.
Conclusion:
When you are young, probably in your teenage, where your physical body and hormones take over your intelligence you might question the basic fundamentals of marriage. At that time you may think there is no point staying in the marriage and spending whole life with a single partner. But when the time passes by, probably in your late 30’s you will understand the meaning of stability, to be organised, etc and will approve the marriage.
So, dear friends, marriage is a wonderful event in life, it teaches you a lot, it will provide you a lot of situations to expose and sharpen your inner qualities.
So in this article, my intention was to just give a view of marriage so that you can have a reference in your mind and will definitely increase the clarity about marriage. For those, who don’t want to marry, it’s absolutely okay, but once you get married please remember it is a minimum 30 years project. So you should think, reflect and prepare because it is not at all desirable to talk marriage and divorce in the same breath. Last but not the least, don’t forget the power of acceptance.
(The author is a Techie by Profession and Blogger by Heart and a Lifehacker by Passion and a Consultant by skill. This article was originally published on Lifehackpundit.com, a website by the author himself).
