A Techie by Profession and Blogger by Heart and a Lifehacker by Passion and a Consultant by Skill
Hi, Friends!
Busy life? Hectic schedule? Working day and night and returning home frustrated?
The answer to all the questions is Yes. We all are in a rat race. It’s perfectly okay to put effort and be busy in our life but my point is do you stop and ask questions to or about yourself? If you do so you will find that you intended to go somewhere and finally turned up elsewhere because you didn’t manage to review your activity in your fast pace life.
Important Question:
Why are we working so hard, why we are taking so much of burden and running, worrying throughout the day? Try to figure out the specific answer.
The truth is for seeking happiness.
But when I interviewed my clients, the general answer which came out is for purchasing a bungalow, new car or bigger car than the previous one, paying EMI’s, etc. Now listen and realize very carefully- bungalows, big cars or whatever achievements you are having, these objects can only give you comfort not happiness. How will you feel to drive a Mercedes the day you get divorced? So all these objects can give you comfort not happiness.
Again many of my clients say that they get happiness from traveling to a new place or by going to a party or having food from a great restaurant. This is again not the state of being happy, the momentary good feelings which we generate from perceiving things from our sense organ i.e. by seeing scenic beauties with our eyes; by tasting food by our tongue is all sensual pleasure which is not persistent. So again pleasure is not the same as happiness.
What is happiness and how to get it?
Happiness is a state of mind, the state which increases your productivity, the state in which you radiate positive vibes. It is the state in which you generate minimum waste and negative thoughts and the state in which you rarely get irritated.
Happiness is a journey, not a destination. You have to enjoy the feeling parallel with your efforts of achieving materialistic objects and achievements.
Now we will shift our approach:
It is not that we have to work hard day in and day out to get happiness. We are peaceful beings, we are already happy. You have to be aware of this fact and pay attention to those activities which snatch out our happiness. So, we have to take care of the activities which go against our happiness and in similar lines, do our day to day activities.
This conceptual shift is known as shifting from the act of deficiency to act of abundance.
Analogy:
See you are given two gardens side by side and been asked to maintain the two. Now suppose you go on watering one garden i.e. day to day you are working to acquire the materialistic objects and achievements and successfully doing that. But somehow somewhere even acquiring all the things you lack happiness. Why? Because you are not watering the other garden of happiness, your emotional wellness garden, to enjoy its fruits. So, it has dried up. Now being aware you have to water the two gardens simultaneously and enjoy the journey. Moreover, please read my previous article to understand the base of emotional wellness.
(This article is originally published on www.lifehackpundit.com by the same author).
